Answering Your Questions #5

Time for a another look at your questions. I do love to hear from my readers. Please continue to send me your questions, either here or on one of my social media accounts. I can be found on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Switter.

Just one question this week:

“What is your favorite aspect of the hobby? The sex, or something else?” — Professor XXXXX

Well, Professor, I would be lying if I said the sex isn’t something I enjoy, but it is not my “favorite” part of being a hobbyist.

Honestly, this is not an easy question for me to answer. I know plenty of other guys who would answer quickly that it is the sex they like best. But that isn’t true for me. Case in point: I had a wonderful afternoon the other day with a provider. We had a nice long lunch, with great conversation. The physical interaction was limited to a few really great hugs and a couple of little kisses. No sex of any kind. And yet, it was wonderful.

I love to interact with people. Especially women. Beautiful, sweet, sexy women. Flirting, talking, hugging, and more talking. I’ve never been the most popular guy. Not in school, not a work, not in other social settings. Women do not generally flirt with me. But in the world of Consensual Transactional Sex (CTS), I can have these kinds of interaction with amazing women. I love this. And more often than not, it is not part of a transaction. In the CTS community I get to be the kind of man I am not in every other part of my life. Okay, I’m still not cool or or really handsome, but I do get to hang out with beautiful women.

But it is more than that. I have legitimate friendships in the CTS community. The lady I had lunch with is a true friend. A real sweetheart. I also have good friendships with a number of other ladies. And I’ve got a handful of guys who have become friends. These are guys I can share a beer with and talk about our community and hobby, without fear of judgement. And then there is my dear friend Sabrina, who really is my best friend. I didn’t get into this game to make friends, and yet these days my best friend is a provider. Life really can turn out strange.

So that is really the answer. My favorite aspect of CTS is friendships and interactions with like-minded people. My people. My community.



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